A Crash Course in Self Care

January 9, 2019 | Jennifer Murphy

The last few blogs I’ve posted recently have been all about self-care. We ALL have heard about self-care almost to the point of being nauseous, right? In my last post, I tried to break down taking the time for ourselves and how important it is. But you know what? I’ll tell you a secret.

I’m terrible at self-care.

Yup, that’s right. I’m terrible at it. I schedule massages when I can squeeze them in and often cancel them because I feel like I have too much work to do. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE my job. So when I say that I cancel my personal massage to GIVE someone a massage, it’s isn’t a chore. But then again, I don’t have any right to complain if my shoulder is nagging me. I had an appointment but chose to cancel. But I digress…

Until the ice storm that happened here in Elizabethtown in November. The first day was kinda fun! I caught up on my reading, got super warm cuddles from my dog and grilled all my meals outside. By the second day, Oso ( my wonderful best bud dog!) and I were sick of it. How did people live without electricity?? Also, AT&T’s towers were down. I got zero cell service! I was itching to do some work and move on with life. I packed us up and drove out into the country to stay the night with a friend.

The night was awesome! We hung out and caught up! Their house had electricity! Showers were had! But I’m not gonna lie, work lingered in the back of my head all night and thoughts of how much I had to catch up on stressed me out a little. The next morning, Oso and I left early to get back to town and try to get on with life and work. Because you know… work.

I had almost made it back to town and the last thing I remember was hearing a loud bang. My poor shocked brain took several minutes to realize that I just had a terrible car accident and my airbag deployed. All I knew was that my hand hurt ( yep, that’s right! My money maker). Bad. It was black and blue. My head and my back were killing me. Also, my car was totaled. And just like that, my day derailed. I spent the day getting x-rays and figuring out insurance. I’m lucky that I have an awesome supportive group of people around me! For sure, those folks made the first several days after the accident easier.

But even WORSE, I had to slow wwaaayyy down. In fact, the first week after the accident I was pretty much at a standstill. I couldn’t use my hand at all. Holding a cup to drink out of was impossible. I had terrible back spasms. Hello, whiplash! Nothing like a little forced self-care to make you realize, well, you need more self-care.

So that whole practice what you preach thing finally started to sink in. I realized that I need to take care of myself so that way I can help take care of others. I mean… how is this just now sinking in? Better late than never right?? The lesson this accident taught me was received loud and clear! For those of you who know me, you know that it’s a big deal for me to take a day off. It’s true. I now have a scheduled day off. I’ve made a real effort to connect with friends more often. I’ve learned to say no to commitments that don’t speak to me. Even better, I’ve taken the time to schedule regular massage appointments! That’s right… I took my own advice!

So remember to take time for yourself! Schedule your massage, take a look at how you can pare down your schedule and most importantly, relax! Your mind and body will thank you!